As a follow-up on my various posts regarding quarter-life crisis issues, here I pose a solution; something that seems to be helping me.
Mine was a classic case of the Y-generation-incited indecisiveness: I just didn´t know what I wanted, what would be best... mainly, I didn´t know where was best. It was all very messy in my mind, which made every other aspect of my life all the messier, and I got rather tired of it. So, on a random day (after my trip to Holland), Daniel and I said, "ENOUGH of this! We are staying where we are, and we´ll make things work here." Why? We were sick & tired of pros and cons, and of irrelevant pros and cons (ya sabes, the kind that you come up with just to promote the place you are more inclined to go for).... of basing decisions on whims, and then changing those decisions, and on thinking out loud without conviction.
No, I will not say that Spain won. In the end, it became less about a competition between countries, and more about simplification. Our life has been stressful enough, lately. NOT bad, no, but stressful. So, we´ve gotten rid of the proverbial clutter. And, isn´t it always so refreshing to get rid of the clutter?? Not an easy thing to do, because we Y-ners are hoarders, hoarders of ideals & options..... but so like a fresh breeze. A spring-cleaning, literally & figuratively.
We chose the easier way: the option with fewest adjustments. We´ll stay where we are, sort of (only moving to another town..). Fewer changes. Good for now. This is not to say that we are settling. Goodness, no. I have come to hate the word. But it is so calming to just "conformarse", to come to terms with a decision, and to store some of the other ideas for later.
Things started to fall into place very quickly once the decision was made. We have found a new home, in our old neighborhood. We´ve found a little pre-school for Ari.... early, huh? So odd. I have a job- interview lined up. But, more importantly, we´re not so overwhelmed. A bit, yes, because it is still going to be a year of huge adjustments. But most of the uncertainty has been eliminated.
Now to my crying children.... they´re tired of their naps.
I´m so glad you guys have reached peace in this decision! Thanks for sharing, hope the move goes smoothly as well as the interview! It is great to de-clutter, we did that as well a couple months ago and we're probly ready to do it again ;) Though it's even more challenging with kids I know! Hope you guys enjoy your new home.
ReplyDeleteCan't wait to see the new place
ReplyDeleteI know what you mean. Jessica and I are pretty much in the same boat right now. If I can find a good job around here, we would just assume not move anywhere.
ReplyDeleteJanna- We´re excited about this place. It´s not like we´ve found our dream-house, but at least we´ll have a space of our own for a while. I hope you´re happy where you are. Hopefully, we´ll get to see you there this summer!
ReplyDeleteLis- I´m so glad you´re coming soon! It will be so much fun to give you a tour of Madrid. I wish we could go back to SC to see you.
Ryan, our (or maybe just my) problem is that "elsewhere" is so appealing, that it´s hard to settle for the familiar. But I guess we´re doing ourselves a favor by putting adventure on hold for a while. One change at a time. Hope you and Jessica will find really great jobs over there.